How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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    Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Education with Tech
Education with Tech

Thanks sir, for the video.

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beau heaven
beau heaven

powerful last words

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McGee Family
McGee Family

This is exactly what I was needing right now. 💙💚

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Phyllis Windes
Phyllis Windes

I needed this! So I plan to send it with the acknowledgement that it really helped me. Hopefully my admission will diffuse any hurt feelings in the receiver.

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Dave DFW
Dave DFW

4.3k people took it personally

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Lena Tsering
Lena Tsering

Very helpful And down-to-Earth practicable!

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Frank Woms
Frank Woms

Joy runs in my heart, I am totally free from Herpes after many years of trying so many medications no result. I am now negative after using the herbal medications I got from Dr. Umoru on YouTube.

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Kelly Moo
Kelly Moo

14:30 :"

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Tarun Verma
Tarun Verma

Well the good thing is don't be over attentive about people Rather focus upon Ur work Be attentive about it

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180-Shreya Gupta
180-Shreya Gupta

this was so so good ! thank you for your values. its just so motivating

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi 180-Shreya Gupta, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Beweave
Beweave

I already had the first strategy down but I always felt that it wasn't enough and now that I've seen the rest of the methods I feel more equipped to give it another go. thank you for this

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Beweave, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Peter Lewis
Peter Lewis

I couldn't watch because of the tinnitus-like sound

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Peter. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

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Benjamin
Benjamin

And if someone tries to murder you don't take it personally and let them achieve their aim

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Benjamin. What do you think yourself of your question? Of course you'll do anything in your power to prevent to be killed.

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Joshua McCrae
Joshua McCrae

So basically... don't be Michael Jordan?

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

basically don't think like he's thinking about this yes.

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Sherry Denny
Sherry Denny

Thank you so much. Needed this right about now.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Sherry, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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broskisephine
broskisephine

about to send this to my friend XD

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broskisephine
broskisephine

@Frederik Imbo i loved your talk, thanks for hosting one!! :)

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Broskisephine, I hope that he or she liked it and it was valuable for them.

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Sid Dodge
Sid Dodge

Exellent

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thanks Sid Dodge.

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Dinesh Singh
Dinesh Singh

Nice

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you Dinesh.

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Darsh Ranasinghe
Darsh Ranasinghe

What a way to complete the speech.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Darsh. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Souta
Souta

omg that last scene make me rethink my life

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Souta. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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miko
miko

I will save you around 17 minutes and tell straight away. You will stop taking things personally once you stop believing you are the most important person in the world and the universe. You are someone but yet nobody essential.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Miko. I agree. We're not the centre of the universe. Our ego thinks we are. But in fact, we're just a tiny part of it.

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Mercide
Mercide

What is our value? What is it if the world's system tells us its performance, intelligence, the amount of money you own? How do we not lose our value if that is what the majority thinks is our value? Please explain these three questions.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Mercide. Thank you for your three questions. one: you and only you determines your value. It's your goal to like and appreciate yourself. Not the task of someone else. two: of course society will also value us, give us a salary, reward us or classify us. That's ok and this tells everything about the judger's preferences and needs. It does not tell anything about how we value ourselves from within us. three: again; your value depends of yourself. "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru. I hope my answers to your question are helpful for you Mercide.

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Hawa Mohd
Hawa Mohd

My supervisor always critic me on how i handle my worker. I feel bad like i'm doing it just like how you teach me. But, why it's not enough.

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Hawa Mohd
Hawa Mohd

@Frederik Imbo sorry my english so bad. I am production line leader in an electronic factory. My supervisor at work always critic me on how i handle my operator. But, i'm doing the work just like how she teach me. When there problem, she want me to inform her. But then she mad because how the problem can occur at the first place. She say i'm not monitor the operator. Sometimes the operator not listen to me.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Hawa. I don't understand your question. could you explain it a bit more?

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Kiefer Moyaert
Kiefer Moyaert

Wow, as a ginger myself, this helped a lot!

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Super Kiefer Moyaert! Laat je door niets of niemand van je stuk brengen! Groeten in Torhout!

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Raquel Mejía
Raquel Mejía

I work at a call center, another prefect place to learn how to not take things personally

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Very true!

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Florinda Holmes
Florinda Holmes

tks

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

With pleasure Florinda!

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Abel Paré De Bellefeuille
Abel Paré De Bellefeuille

🌀©️®️™️🏴‍☠️🚨⛔️🕵🏻‍♀️😂

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Justin Weaver
Justin Weaver

Seriously who are the people who thumbs downed this? This was a great talk that applies to probably 90% of people

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Justin. Thank you for your enthusiastic response. Maybe those people don't agree with my message or did not like my personality?

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Riadh eddine Boulahchich
Riadh eddine Boulahchich

even if they laugh at you, it's not about you they are just boosting their ego and think they are more cool than others

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Very true Riadh.

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Riadh eddine Boulahchich
Riadh eddine Boulahchich

it's okay if they are not interested, people have many agenda by their actions it's not just about you

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TH TK
TH TK

I recommended this video to a friend of mine after I watched it and found a great value. However, my friend took it personal.

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TH TK
TH TK

@Frederik Imbo thank you for sparing your time for reply. I do indeed! Your video is a game changer in my life. It helped me to have a paradigm shift in how I can respond to peoples behavior and in how I behave as well. Thank you so much!

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

How sad. Now you know how not to take his reaction personally!

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miki i am
miki i am

😆😆

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Олеся Ру
Олеся Ру

I like how he is nodding his head)

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

super!

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False Note Fest
False Note Fest

Hey don't do politics, you are english and you use an Euro ???!!!! I take that personally !

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False Note Fest
False Note Fest

@Frederik Imbo Hi I am french. I am happy to hear that you are using the Euro Deutch Mark in Belgium too. Your conference is very useful, thank you very much and you can punish French footballers because they are cheaters

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi, I'm not British. I'm Belgian and we use Euros here.

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George Afleckket
George Afleckket

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J
J

You will always know your value. the ending is very powerful.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi J, Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Xavier Zayne
Xavier Zayne

So, should I take this guy seriously?

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Xavier. You can decide yourself whether you take my message seriously or not.

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Nova Jenkins
Nova Jenkins

Here's some tips for beating the fear of driving 1) Take control of your own life. 2) Learn about the power of the mind. 3) Follow in the tracks of people who have already overcome the fear. I got these tips from the Roys Quick Fix (check it out on google) without a doubt the best info on success that I've heard of.

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Inday Jocelyn
Inday Jocelyn

why to low sound

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Savio Fernandes
Savio Fernandes

I took this video personally

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha Savio. Please don't.

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Naveen Mohan
Naveen Mohan

Beautifully said👏🏼

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Naveen Mohan. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Florence Lecot
Florence Lecot

This should be teaches to every one, in primary schools or other schools. You are a genious Fred

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Florence! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Tanzeem Shabnam
Tanzeem Shabnam

he seems like a very kind person

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Well, I am... at least most this is what I aim for most of the times. Thanks Tanzeem.

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Sa Mya
Sa Mya

Who’s noticing he touched his stomach when he feeling bad??

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Slivress Sliver
Slivress Sliver

One of my biggest failings is taking things personally and becoming an irritated grump. I already knew this truth, but this video is going on my watchlist as a reminder, lol. Thank you!

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Slivress Silver, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Juniper
Juniper

Wow. This is actually incredibly insightful advice. As a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder, I tend to take the smallest slights with feelings of utter betrayal or abandonment. After watching this video, I’m going to try and put these practices conscientiously in my interactions with others. Great job man! Extraordinary thinking.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you as someone who suffers from Borderline. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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drgn
drgn

The video thumbnail looked like Prince Harry

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha! You're not the first one who thought so.

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t sam
t sam

Wearing leotards for pants. A real metrosexual soy-boy. Real men don't wear pants like those. Those are girlie pants.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you for your advise. However, I'm really ok with my pants.

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Rick Nelson
Rick Nelson

People fail not because they can`t deal with an outward situation it is the inner or mental conflict that defeats them.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

very very true Rick. All the seawater in the world can't sink a ship, unless the ship takes on water. All the negativity in the world can't touch you, unless you let it.

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2 in the Box Podcast
2 in the Box Podcast

That finale was incredible. If you aren't able to understand that message, watch it again. Sometimes the easiest message needs to be repeated. There's no shame in that.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi '2 in the Box Podcast', Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Craz Violin
Craz Violin

Very simple...to the point and very informative. I appreciate you

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Craz Violin, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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abdulkareem abdullah
abdulkareem abdullah

i love this

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thanks Abdulkareem Abdullah!

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Treasa Lynam
Treasa Lynam

20 pounds a month????????????????? That's personal!!!😅😅😂😅

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha! It's my choice.

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Deep N
Deep N

Totally relatable 💯... really needed this 🙌 🙏 tysm 💖

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Deep N
Deep N

😊🥰😊

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Deep N! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Raging Kid
Raging Kid

“OK fine..” — Michael Jordan

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha indeed!

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mister mister
mister mister

When someone flashes and honks behind me when i'm driving the godamn speed limit, I TAKE IT PERSONALY. Of course I'm considerate and take my time stoping the car and educate the other person with punches to the head or a bat to the windshield.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Ok mister mister, go for it if this makes you happy.

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Renjit J
Renjit J

YouTube seems to be reading my thoughts! Highly relevant and well presented. The ending note tops it all up.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Renjit J! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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ghaza abdou
ghaza abdou

Who am I ?😞 why I exist?😔 What is my destiny?😢 These questions and made the whole world . You will find its solutions or answers only in Islam😃😍😇 The sad people in the universe are so many .. but in Islam you move from happiness to happiness … by mentioning Allah and loving him.😇 😍😇 What is the Islam💎.💖 What are its beliefs? Know the best Religion on earth, the nearest to Mans mind.💎 ❤😍 😇 💎What is the secret beyond Muslims prayers? Why the white man stand beside the block one? The rich man beside the poor one, all together like brothers?💎😍 ❤Allah will help you if you help your brother is one of prohet Mohammad sayings💎😍 😃 life has no meaning withot Islam as it guide you to a permanent purpose💎😍 -------- ❤Prayers are the means to get a psychological health(islamic principle)😍 ------- Do you want a peace of mind? Islam gives it to you as it tells you what you want to know about ur first & second life💎😍 *❤ Islam is the religion of equality .❤😍 ❤Let the sun of Islam shine in your heart💎😍 💎Islam is a religion of mercy that does not permit terrorism❤💖😍 💎Islam rejects certain indivisuals or nations being favored because of their wealth,power or race, but they are favored on basis of faith and piety💜😍 💖 💎A Muslim woman is flower that does not flag❤😍 💎Prophet Mohammed is a good example of the trustee, just,merciful,compassionate,honest and brave Muslim

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Jones Philip
Jones Philip

Hello everyone all thanks to Dr Aba for curing me from HIV am very grateful sir

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Just Another 30 Days
Just Another 30 Days

Wow.. nice speech. Thank you!

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi 'Just Another 30 Days', Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Roshan Varghese
Roshan Varghese

What if people tear you apart? Then the cash analogy does not work lol. Well I guess in that case, don't let people tear you apart

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

That's the spirit Roshan. Make sure that people don't let you tear apart.

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Angelina Jane
Angelina Jane

You should work in retail it will help you train harder 🤣🤣🤣

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angelina! I think working in retail is a huuuuuuge challenge to not taking things personally.

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Zachary Pittman
Zachary Pittman

What if your in a conversation but the other person doesn't know your taking it personally because they don't care what anyone else says because there ego is to high

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Олд странствующий
Олд странствующий

I hate it when he asks something everyone is just silent

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Олд странствующий
Олд странствующий

@Frederik Imbo anyways, your performance was great and informative!

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

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Dhimitra Shukallari
Dhimitra Shukallari

👏

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you Dhimitra!

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Alicia James
Alicia James

All thanks to Dr Osade on Youtube I got cured from herpes virus with the help of his herbal med

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Jack Whiting
Jack Whiting

I feel like this is how narcissistic people take advantage of people who can’t speak up for themselves. It’s a vicious tactic of ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ no matter what. Speak up about how you feel and they’ll still call you wrong. Easy way to expose them. Call it ‘How to catch a narcissist’

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Olive racine peart Racine peart
Olive racine peart Racine peart

So are u agreeing with this or disagreeing?

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Angela Krause
Angela Krause

But..but..when someone insults you then says don’t take it personally???...one of my pet hates. I mean if it’s an actual insult. Happened to me recently.

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Angela Krause
Angela Krause

@Frederik Imbo thank you. Food for thought indeed🥰

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angela. A very interesting question you have there. If the other one insults you, why would you take it personally. Just don't let the other one hurt you. I believe that even when someone is bashing you, the person's intention is positive... for themselves. They try to be bigger by trying to make someone smaller. They try to feel better by humiliating someone. It doesn't say anything about your value. It says a lot about the other person. If you really understand this, you will be able to feel less attacked by the bully. You'll see that he's only trying to compensate and react his own fear and feelings of inferiority. Of course, that doesn't mean that what you experience is nice. It might be very painful. BUT... then it means that this pain was already inside of you. The other one only touched that pain by saying what he said. So the key is to work on yourself by starting to be more gentle with yourself and give yourself compassion and develop your self love. If you do that, and become to truly love and appreciate yourself, the other can do whatever he wants, it will less and less hurt you, because you know that it isn't true. As long as it still hurts, it means that you're still struggling with yourself. All the seawater in the world can't sink a ship, unless the ship takes on water. All the negativity in the world can't touch you, unless you let it.

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Angela Krause
Angela Krause

I can hear a high pitched signal during this video. Just searched my whole house to find out where it was coming from🤣 Thought I had tinnitus starting.

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Angela Krause
Angela Krause

@Frederik Imbo maybe it was just me. I pick up on high frequency noises easily. I will try another device and let you know.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angela. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise.

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Kalin Gergov
Kalin Gergov

this guy couldnt take a more perfect crowd to show how not to take it personaly.. they didnt interract with him AT ALL...

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Kalin. The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

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/can you keep your value if there is inflation? I like this lesson and will try to use it, but if someone hurts my family I don't know if the coin will work, unless im 2face lol

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Prachi Namdev

By not taking things personally

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kevin clark

That was beautiful about always keeping your value.

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There's a balance between this and taking things personally, without that boundaries would be crossed

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Amari Kinyanjui
Amari Kinyanjui

Frederik: How not to take things personally Michael Jordan: “And I took that personally”

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Amari Kinyanjui
Amari Kinyanjui

Frederik: How not to take things personally Michael Jordan: “And I took that personally”

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sayantan Paul
sayantan Paul

@Frederik Imbo how Do we let discouragement not effect us... How can I not take that personally?

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Nathan Gebreselassie
Nathan Gebreselassie

@Frederik Imbo I don't take things personally because I don't really care whether people hate me or whatever, cause it doesn't really matter to be honest with myself.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Haha indeed Amari. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued. Hi Sadia! Yes! I try to respond to every comment. It's the least thing I can do to thank someone for their time to watch my TEDx talk and to have sent me a personal message. I'm glad that you appreciate this.

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MeltingBlowfish
MeltingBlowfish

Yo I’m high af and when I saw the thumbnail I thought his hand was the back of his neck and that he had some kind of deformity

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Latiel Bobadilla
Latiel Bobadilla

Upon looking on the Thumbnail. I thought he's Lucifer from Supernatural.

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Kakyoin
Kakyoin

It actually kind of works, I'm impressed.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Kakyoin. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Alexandria C.
Alexandria C.

I got goosebumps at the end. I’ll be teaching this to my children. We often forget the simple messages the universe tells us.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Alexandria. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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Michael Jordan should see this

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Haha indeed. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued. Hi Sadia! Yes! I try to respond to every comment. It's the least thing I can do to thank someone for their time to watch my TEDx talk and to have sent me a personal message. I'm glad that you appreciate this.

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Eliza Tasnim Ema
Eliza Tasnim Ema

🌈✨ this video is really helpful for me to glow up

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Eliza! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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S Skylight
S Skylight

If anyone knows of any other helpful videos like this Tedtalk that deal with issues like rejection, criticism, self esteem and respect, please share them :) Many thanks in advance

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi S Skylight! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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S Skylight
S Skylight

What a lovely, helpful talk. Thank you Frederik

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Hilal C
Hilal C

Wow! His speech was incredible, it really opened my eyes

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Hilal! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

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CAT Cas
CAT Cas

Bad audio

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Sorry to read this. Did you try on another device?

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Zathael_in_black
Zathael_in_black

I live by myself. I always have and always will. Why? Because I'm all about me.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

If this makes you happy, go for it!

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Blovett-
Blovett-

Nice to see Kevin De Bruyne's dad is also involved in football

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Blovett. Kevin DeBruyne was born in 1991. I was born in 1975. So technically, that's possible... However, I can reassure you: I'm not his father. However, we are both from Belgium. Anyway, thx for the funny suggestion, and no worries; I didn't take it personally.

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Eternal Atake
Eternal Atake

13:57 In this segment, I'm quite sure he refers to children with narcissistic parents. Narcissistic parents need to keep you (child) under manipulation, they can't have you (child) be succesfull without their help, they like attention coz they are narcissists, duh. So they try to make their child think they need their parents, indepence of child is dangerous for the manipulative parents. I can relate to this, because I've had to deal with extremely narcissistic parents. *So how do the parents do it?* They constantly observe and judge their children's every move and any pushback (against authority, even questioning authority) is punished by the parents, this causes the child to think he/she is never good enough. Then they like to give stuff to their child, then later to blackmail them later, or even going as far to take back the stuff that was given to them as a means of punishment, blackmailing they do whenever they like to, if multiple sisters or brothers, they might even give you toys to your brother or sister as punishment or te create competition for the parents attention. *Situational example:* Parent tells child off for everything, even though the child might've only dropped that 'thing' on accident the parents still tell them: "Don't ever do that again, or say sorry for destroying it". So they make the child feel like him/her -self is the burden, even though the parents are the burden for not understanding it was just an accident. Narcissistic parents, grew up with narcistic parents, I describe them as people who are constantly jealouse people who can't have you think or be better then themselves, usually those type of parents think (and try to make their children think) their children are an extention of them, as this boosts their ego and if the child has any good qualities the parent can brag about it and say: "you are like me, I was also good in that or even go as far as telling other people that they taught their children everything.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Eternal Atake. Thank you for sharing your ideas. Very interesting. I think a lot of children suffer from parents who don't give them unconditional love and do not encourage them to be independent. And they don't do that because they are bad people. No, they just havent' received the unconditional love from their parents either.

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Mauro Gilson Spacenkopf
Mauro Gilson Spacenkopf

13:13 Queiroz take it personally.

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jaz d
jaz d

"If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru.

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Agent Smith
Agent Smith

sadhguru is ridiculous. I checked his stuff out and he's just embracing the guru life style and rocking the life lol. I'm Smithguru now! Ask me anything I'll give you a better answer. I went to guru school.

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jaz d
jaz d

@Frederik Imbo you're most welcome ☺

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

wow! Very true! Thank you Jaz D!

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Abusaad Khan
Abusaad Khan

It's not about me ❤😌

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

that's the spirit Abusaad!

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Somesh M
Somesh M

How not to take things personally? Answer- become a football referee

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Yes!

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Steve Scott
Steve Scott

Don’t take this personally but there’s a high pitch tone throughout this video and someone should scrub it from the soundtrack...

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Steve. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

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Monika Tk
Monika Tk

I took everything personally n it kills me.. Menntally drain out😥

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Monika. I really hope then that my talk could give you some insights and tips. Good luck!

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anonymer Regenschirm
anonymer Regenschirm

👍🏻👍🏻

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you!

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Elaine Villanueva
Elaine Villanueva

"If i try to see the intention of the other one. I make space for the understanding instead of irritation." Noted ❤

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Elaine! That' the spirit!

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manualLaborer
manualLaborer

Rule #1 - be born a sociopath.

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Jesal Jadeja
Jesal Jadeja

Am i the only one who’s hearing the background static noise?

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Jesal Jadeja
Jesal Jadeja

@Frederik Imbo don’t worry about it, i was just checking to see if I’ve gone bonkers or not!! i heard your talk and it helped me in a big way bc i had recently gone through a bad situation.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Jesal. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

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Xendrius
Xendrius

I took this video persoanlly.

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Please... Don't!

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Xendrius
Xendrius

@Zachary Pittman Was a joke, but what isnt a joke is that iluminati is behind covid, read the 25 iluminati goals.

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Zachary Pittman
Zachary Pittman

How do you take this personaly so far I haven't herd him say anything wrong in my opinion

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jaydon new
jaydon new

why do you only have 20 likes? smh

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Becky
Becky

why do you only have 20 likes? smh

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